I tried to tell my parents about how great my boyfriend was. My mom said, “no, but he is not Chinese.”
Dating in China [part 2]


A queer feminist anthropologist exploring the realities of culture, gender, and sexuality in contemporary Asia

I tried to tell my parents about how great my boyfriend was. My mom said, “no, but he is not Chinese.”

Image: A small boy feeds the fish at Yu Gardens, Shanghai, China

At a time when feminism is growing in China and yet the movement remains largely underground, the need for women’s empowerment is routinely ignored in China. As stated by one of these women: ‘not getting married is like the biggest sign of disrespect’ to her parents, and society as a whole. The film taps into that need directly.

Aerial view of Beijing taken moments before my plane landed at Beijing International Airport (PEK), Sept 2016 © ZhendeGender

I remember my mother sewed a lot of pockets into my coat. I’d put on the coat with a lot of inside-out pockets and go to the fields and take some food in the pockets and run back quickly so that they had food.

Learning that your ex is married. Walking away from a Tinder date. Getting set up by your boyfriend. These women tell true stories of their dating experiences in China.

āyí mobile © ZhendeGender This type of vehicle is common on Beijing's streets: a fully upholstered armchair on the back of a mobility scooter is not an unusual sight, but their speed may surprise passers-by. Image captured on Beijing's second ringroad in September 2016.
Want to avoid the lunchtime rush? Eat on the street.

How are we to believe Mao Zedong's statement that "women hold up half the sky", if China’s women are being downtrodden by the very language they speak?
Four months ago, I made the courageous decision to cut my 12 inch hair off entirely. Here's a video of the day, the event, and the aftermath: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eZpAY8zrkEg A huge thank you to my good friends Maxi Battaglia and Ponita Reasmy for making this video possible. It is a wonderful record of a major moment in [...]